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Look at the heartbreaking story this week of Jemma Oliver.

This is not a fact that money-spinning IVF clinics are eager to spread around.There is an old saying that I've always loved: 'The death of a mother is the first sorrow in your life that you weep over without her.' In a practical, no-nonsense way, it sums up the strength and solace that we too often take for granted from our mothers - until they are taken from us.Sadly, this morning two small boys called Christian and Pau probably won't even be aware that the woman to whom they would instinctively look for that love and support isn't there any more. Maria del Carmen Bousada earned the dubious title of World's Oldest Mother when she gave birth to the twin boys in December 2006, just days before her 67th birthday.People ask me how a child would feel having a mum of my age. Dear God, is there no end to these women's delusions?There are very good reasons why fertility clinics in the UK have an upper age limit of 50. Not long ago, I wrote about Elizabeth Adeney when she brought her newborn son from the hospital to her Suffolk home.Not yet three years old, Christian and Pau are now orphans in the care of an ageing family to whom they have no biological relationship.

(Their mother used both egg and sperm donors.) As they grow up, the twins will inevitably find out that their mother lied about her age to get fertility treatment.

Such women are so walled up inside a sense of entitlement that small matters like potentially leaving your child without a parent don't seem to register with them.

Part of the problem is that society has become afraid of seeming 'judgmental'.

As Kypros Nicolaides, Professor of Foetal Medicine at King's College Hospital, points out: 'In 1970, 5 per cent of pregnant women were over 35, but in most European countries the figure is now 20 to 25 per cent.' Don't get me wrong.

I am one of the millions of women who left having kids until their 30s. I fell pregnant easily and both of my babies were healthy, although there were complications at the births that were linked to my being what the medical profession so charmingly calls an 'elderly primagravida' - or an ancient first-time Mum.

The disturbing thing is that Miss Bousada is not a ghoulish one-off.