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Truth in dating

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In addition to being an internationally know professional speaker and seminar leader, I am a fairly prolific author of self-help books on relationships.I have written 11 books on relationships, including three best sellers: The Couples’ Journey: Intimacy as a Path to Wholeness (which was the first relationship book to view intimacy as a spiritual voyage); Getting Real: 10 Truth Skills You Need to Live and Authentic Life, and From Chaos to Confidence: Survival Strategies for the New Workplace (which was a featured selection of the Newbridge Book Club and is the subject of a popular business training film produced by CRM Films).

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For 12 years in the 60’s and 70’s I was a member of the Graduate Faculty at the University of Massachusetts in Amherst, where I started that school’s couple and family therapy training program.These days what we think is the right thing to do is wrong and everything is about power plays, down playing and denying.A look at some of the bestselling “dating guides” on Amazon showcases a wealth of so called rules that include how long we should wait to contact, who should make the contact, how to have someone eating out of the palm of our hand and more.All of these guides are chock full of trickery and petty manipulation that has created a modern dating culture filled with deceptive and at times totally conflicting qualities.Is it really any wonder why so many struggle to find their footing in the dating world? — My interests are cross-country skiing, the opera and the symphony. So you’re wondering: Would anyone ever want to meet someone on my Truth-in-Advertising website? The myriad of women who aren’t tall, blonde, blue-eyed, silicone-breasted beauties. Not to mention all the gals and guys who auditioned for “Extreme Makeover,” “Average Joe,” “The Swan” and “The Biggest Loser” — but didn’t get on.

— I want a doormat who will cook, clean and slave for me. If-I-Don’t-Meet-Someone-Soon-I’— I’m anorexic, so you won’t have to spend money on dinner dates.

I have trained dozens of people to be Getting Real Coaches and Honesty Salon facilitators.

The Getting Real Work teaches “10 Truth Skills You Need to Live an Authentic Life.” We practice these Truth Skills in the Honesty Salons that I lead and teach others to lead.

And I have appeared on numerous talk shows over the past thirty-five years, including CNN’s “News Night,” “Good Morning America,” “The Dr.

Dean Edel Show,” and “People Are Talking.”My work on conflict resolution is widely distributed via Psychology Today Magazine’s “experts in the field” audio series, where I haave two titles, “A Guide to Open Communication,” and “Why Opposites Attract.” My approach to relationship coaching draws from my extensive post-graduate training in systems theory, group dynamics, Gestalt therapy, Bioenergetics, Reichian therapy, Jungian psychology, Buddhist mindfulness practice, the Gurdjieff work, somatic psychology, Holotropic breathwork, process consultation, family systems therapy, and trauma recovery work.

A “regular” profiler is $59 — but if you want a “master” profiler — it’s $299.