Secretly dating my ex
So even those who dumped me wouldn’t get a second shake today.Think about the men who dumped you and whether you’d truly take them back. At the end of the day, it’s not my place to say whether they’re “too close”.
He’s letting her do that to me and to our relationship.The husband seems to accept this and there is virtually no probability that she would leave him for the man she dumped seven years ago.Some men are better boyfriends than husbands, she concluded. Which is why I’m not willing to go out on a limb and suggest that you’re in the same situation. Among the important ones: 35-year-olds are usually better decision makers than 25-year-olds.And if anyone wants to get on my case about telling her to accept her boyfriend’s behavior, please go back to that paragraph where I said that if she’s not getting her relationship needs met, she should leave.But if she’s GOING to be in the relationship, the way to handle it is to be trusting, not edgy and jealous.You won’t have to say anything at all to make it happen. As I’ve said many, many times before, it’s either full trust or no trust.
If you find you’re not getting your relationship needs met, you can leave. You’re getting yourself tied up in knots and it’s surely not serving your goal of maintaining a healthy relationship with your boyfriend. What do you think is going to lead to a better relationship.
Ask yourself this: would YOU take back anyone that you’ve dumped? Sure, at the time, I was reeling, and wishing things could be different.
But then the smoke began to clear and I started to see my ex’s for what they were – normal, flawed women, not visions of perfection like I made them out to be.
He refuses to distance himself from her and thinks I’m being unreasonable by asking him to do so. She was extremely nice to me, so much so it felt unnatural since she doesn’t know me at all.
So, my question is what kind of friendship with the ex is too much? Am I being a jealous girlfriend to feel the way I feel?
You don’t have any leverage on a man until he loves you, and the more you pressure him to change, the less likely he’s going to be busting out the “L-Word” any time soon.