Onlinedating in the uk
Silly logic aside, I would ask any reader who has this issue the same thing I asked the woman who contacted me: are the two of you EXCLUSIVE and have you both made it clear that you are only interested in dating each other?
I am really interested in him and I get the feeling that he feels the same way.Perhaps not nice or courteous but not unfair either.It’s especially bothersome if his actions suggest exclusivity even if he hasn’t declared so in words…and yet it is still acceptable in my mind for him to keep his profile up, even in this case.I even had one reader who had gave the man a hard time the day after their first date when his profile was still up.I wish these readers had written me beforehand because this is often the worst approach to take (at least from this guy’s point-of-view). I do have some advice but let’s first look at one reader’s email and user this as an example for better understanding where you stand with your guy: I have been dating a man I met on for about 6 weeks – we go out regularly and he is always quick to make plans with me.What You Do The one thing you shouldn’t do is verbally attack the guy or start throwing out ultimatums.
If he’s hesitating because he’s concerned about commitment, this approach could scare him off.
When my profile was still up I did message him while he was online and made a little joke about him being there one day and his response was that when people make the effort they at least deserve a polite ‘no thank you’…but that’s been a month ago.
I haven’t said one word about it since but I am wondering how long to wait.
As I discussed above, I would recommend against being aggressive or angry.
Still, these are areas you will need him to define.
My issue comes with him still having his profile up, and with my curiosity getting the best of me, I check almost everyday just to see when he last logged on – seems to be every few days or so.