Online dating advice for women
I’m not talking about anonymous trolls — I’m talking about how you represent yourself.
Author Laura Zinn opines, and I agree, “Be exactly who you are, though this means you’ll get rejected.” That is, until the person who loves everything about you comes along!If they tell you a slightly embarrassing story, guess what you should do? If someone writes to you “Hey, I like that picture of you in Tulum! People are just testing the water with their first emails. There is no correlation between bad spelling or grammar and intelligence. Keep your homonyms straight (your, you’re) and your possessives minimal (it’s, its).I know you use internet slang and text language to your friends, but this is not your friend.They just want to flirt and chat with people and have no desire to actually meet them in person.You want to weed these people out as quick as possible. The minute you do, you send him a cute text with an adorable kissy face.I know this election, in particular, has been extremely divisive, but this is not the time to start sharing your opinions on politics or any other possibly fiery topics. We just avoid those topics because we are adults and enjoy our friendship. The woman you’re talking to is a human being, not an object. I know men tend to just say what enters their heads without passing it through a filter.
If you draw out a position that is different from yours right off the bat, you might completely discount the person. It prompts interesting discussions and opens our eyes to multiple sides of an issue, so keep your convo light and fun at the beginning. It can be understandable in person when they get their wires crossed and trip over their tongue. When I am instructing my male clients, I tell them to imagine they are talking to their sister or grandmother at first. The flirting can come later after you’ve had a few emails or calls.
), it’s so nice to be able to have a good base of etiquette and manners.
That doesn’t mean I use them all the time, but at least I know what they are.
This is someone you’re, well, hoping to sleep with or be in a relationship with. Re-read your messages once before you send them to make sure there are no glaring mistakes.
You’re looking for a potential mate, not a pen pal.
One of my current clients met someone on Ok Cupid, and they exchanged numbers.