A year ago I wrote an article called “Seven Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Date a Divorced Man.” I wrote this based on my experience on this matter and the experiences of some other people I know.
If you are a mother and you are collecting child support, you are not a single mother. The rest of us who have to LIVE with your fucked up, emotionally scarred children will PAY you to have a fucking abortion. Second, single mothers are clearly really, really shitty at making life decisions. You both put each other’s happiness above your own. Now divorced mothers, who are a breed of single mothers, MIGHT be a little different, but whenever you approach one, sing this little song in your head: it takes two to tango. Even if it’s TRUE that the husband was a colossal fuck-up, you need to ask yourself what kind of imperceptive moron couldn’t spot that?You might not be the FIRST man she blames all her problems on, but you sure as hell can be NEXT. On the whole, give single and divorced mothers a pass. Little girls long for daddies as much as little boys. The children of single mothers have already been wounded so deeply by the lack of a father. And for the love of god, if you decide to give one a spin, STAY AWAY FROM THE CHILD. To give them some hope that it might be YOU, and then leave them is unspeakably cruel. You can’t save those little innocents, but you can save them from hurting even more. Here is my favourite answer that was submitted by Eileen Wormack, a dentist who dated a divorced guy with two kids for three years:“You will never experience the joy of first time-ness.I don’t care if he is the prince above all princes, the perfect and supreme human being, you will never have the joy of experiencing anything first together. When he first proposed to the ex, the first wedding, the first honeymoon, the first child he saw being born, the first time he bought the eternal home with her, the first time they went on holiday together etc.Even though I gathered about a hundred reasons why dating a divorced man is just not wise, I will elaborate on the seven most common answers that I received.
Goodbye First Time Thrill Effect This was the most common point that all my respondents pointed out on.
You can suppress it, but it will creep up in some way or another.
No one ever survives dating a divorced guy, whether it’s for a year, ten years, 30 years or even a hundred years.
It may thrill you, but you can be thrilled as a singleton so why settle with a bloke you can’t have “the thrill” with?
The thrill only happens once and once only in a lifetime so if you choose to date a divorced man, you’re denying yourself one of the fundamental joys of life and trust me no man is worth giving that to.”It’s Not a Sacred Complete Union — It’s a Wound Concealer This point was submitted by Jacqueline Summers, a beautician who is divorced and married a divorced man with three kids for fifteen years:“I don’t care what the current status of your relationship with your divorced companion is.
He put his heart and soul into “the first thrill” so when he starts dating you, it is no longer a thrill to him and neither is his heart and soul in it.