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it’s about social skills, learning how to communicate with different people, and figuring out what you want and what you like. Basically, a date in the regular world isn’t a job interview. I ended up with some great male friends from my dating days.
I think this has more to do with me than being Mormon, but I do think that being Mormon made me uncomfortable with dating non-Mormons.As a borderline narcissistic introvert, you might be surprised to learn that I have friends, even friends from many different lands (states) and persuasions. Of course the rest of you won’t be surprised at all. Here, in no particular sequence of topics, are some observations from students, friends, and neighbors on dating culture among Mormons, and sometimes, others.One friend observed that the experience of two relatives suggests that serious relationships among singles are drying up.So if it’s not someone you want to marry, break up and move on as soon as possible.” Here is a sequence of comments from a recent conversation on the subject of dating with a group of friends: I have several non-LDS friends who are my age and have either never had a boyfriend or have gone through decade-long dry spells.I think dating is more trouble than it’s worth for a lot of people, and it just gets to be more trouble as you get older. There is definitely a generational shift on this, although I can’t say what the real norms are. I know lots of non-members who are non-daters as well.Another man, back in the dating game after many years, kindly responded to questions about the current climate: “LDS people are more likely to avoid opposite sex friendships which won’t lead to marriage, and I think that hurts us.
Doug Brinley (a BYU religion teacher) taught that you should evaluate any potential date with the question ‘Would she make a good mother of my children? People who do that miss out on many meaningful friendships.
There’s just nowhere for it to happen.” I think some Church authorities have been fairly liberal in their concept of dating.
Elder Ballard has promoted the idea of one on one dating, but not necessarily with the sole goal of marriage.
Those norms seem to be 1) social exclusivity (dating) is a big deal because it seems to imply a willingness to move in together and/or perhaps eventually marry, and is not to be embarked upon lightly.
2) sexual activity is not dependent upon social exclusivity.
Let’s face it, there aren’t that many women I want to make babies with, but lots of women are interesting, outstanding people, and I’m glad they’re my friends.