Love at second sight playing the midlife dating game
Guest: Shewanda Riley is a Dallas-based author and media professional who has worked as a News Director, producer and on-air talent for radio stations in Dallas, Texas and for the Armed Forces Network.
Guest: Joyce Dolberg Rowe, a popular professional psychotherapist and relationship expert. She is the author of "How to Find Your Soulmate," which will direct you along the path to a long-term loving relationship with the right partner.But he knows lots and lots of people and, for whatever odd reason, people tell him a lot about themselves. What he said was this: The happiest couples he knows, like, actually happy together, are those in second marriages who really took the time to choose carefully the second time around; who used their first marriage as a wake-up call, a teaching moment (or decade or two). In a new relationship after a tough marriage, you get to rewrite all the rules.I started asking around, asking women in second-time-around relationships what made them better, or at least smarter. If you were passive or felt pushed around in your first marriage, you can start off, right from the beginning, in a new role.It was hard to admit that I am one of those people who are not meant to have a positive partner love relationship. That likely, the intimate relationship will fail and you will be left with yet another major wound in your heart to heal... The only way to not repeat painful suffered lessons in love is just to not play the game at all and fill your life with something else and enjoy every day doing whatever it is that you love doing. I had wanted so badly the "one true love, twin flame", the perfect partner for me who would know me so well that he could read my mind, be loyal, and all of the little girl fairytale romance bullshit that fantasies have to offer. It's 100% effective that you will not get your heart broken again. A new mindset Another theme that came up in almost every case was exhaustion, hopelessness and despair in first marriages that make change feel impossible.
It's so much easier to reinvent yourself in a new relationship dynamic. It's exhausting, depressing and after so long can feel like (and be) impossible to make any inroads into change.
I used to get mad about this subject, spit nails I hated men and marriage and love so very much and I am still not a big fan of it.
This is a proximate result from my life being with horrible relationships that were either abusive or just filled with darkness in one way or another. But, for those out there who FEEL like they want to be in love and have hope for it, then I hope you find it and enjoy it. because there isn't another life lesson in love that is needed in which to grow...... I have found that love only brings life lessons, mostly bad at first and then good.
I believe in love and that it will come if you are open to it. Blended families rarely work out with the often rancorous disputes over children end in divorce disaster.
Having believed I did everything right with my second marriage; loving environment, beautiful children, no arguing, financial security, etc.... I was offering some hope for finding love - what you do with it is an entirely different story. I do not believe that has to be the end of a romantic life, though.
Transform yourself from the inside Anything truly is possible.