Is he cheating on dating sites
I was wondering if you could help me with something that has been playing on my mind recently…It recently transpired that my boyfriend of 15 months has been looking at girls on a dating website that he used to use before he met me.
I know this has made me feel insecure and I hate it, I just want to enjoy being in the relationship again!The other big difference is that our homes are much more porous than before. In the past, there was one phone and we knew who had called.Now, your partner could be texting someone else in another room and you don’t know.I told him that I found this a bit weird that he is going on a dating website to look at other girls, when supposedly he is in a relationship with me.He said that he didn’t see anything wrong in it and it meant nothing.The thing is that it’s now really niggling at me and I feel like he’s broken my trust.
I feel like I’m in the “normal” (whatever that is) range of trusting partners, even though my last relationship of 9 years ended when he left me out of the blue for another girl (I know this is probably and subconsciously a fear of mine that this will happen again in a relationship, as it was such a shock).
I have some of your books including “resolve your differences”, “are you right for me?
”, “heal and move on” and “learn to love yourself enough” I would really appreciate any advice you have or to point me in the right direction with your books, as I find your site a great resource for relationship issues and whenever I type it into google it comes up with all sorts of unhelpful forums.
I told him how it really upset me and how disrespectful I found it, especially as it was a dating website.
He responded with saying that although he didn’t see anything wrong in it “it’s nothing”, he could see that it had upset me and so when I asked him to delete it, he went ahead and deleted his account.
I understand that we’re all human and we notice the opposite sex, but I just have lots of questions running through my mind now like “was he being genuine at the beginning?