Interracial dating psychology
I felt like I was sort of “upgrading” in a way by moving away from my heritage. Adam and I have been dating for over a year, and I’ve learned that we are very much alike.I felt proud that I was more white-washed than all my other Asian friends. Although we grew up with some very different traditions (my Chinese/Vietnamese heritage and his Canadian/Jewish heritage), we pretty much went through the same circumstances as Canadian children.
Sometimes, I get discriminated against by Chinese men on the street.I also went to Hong Kong last summer, and it really opened my eyes to my Chinese heritage.There is a difference between having yellow fever and simply being attracted to the physical features of people from a certain culture.That was the beauty of having a relationship with a Westerner.My education and life experience made me a strong and independent woman.It scares a lot of Chinese guys, who look for a typical "good woman" by the standards of their parents.
With my Western boyfriend, I didn't have to pretend to be a "cute and naive woman," and I am not afraid of who I am.
” I was born and raised in Toronto by my parents who were also raised in Toronto, so I was just as westernized as these guys were.
When I received messages from other people of colour, they didn’t even mention anything about the fact that I was Asian.
As a young Asian woman, I am no stranger to feeling fetishized by white males.
During the year and a half I was on Tinder, white males of or around my age sent me messages such as “you’re my first Asian”, “Asa Akira”, “you look like an Asian goddess”, and best of all, “don’t Asian girls love white guys?
Illustration: Liu Rui/GT Editor's Note: Decades after China's opening up, intercultural relationships can still become an issue.