General dating getting an ex girlfriend back
At a minimum, you don’t really know if you can vouch for Jane or not, and that means that you can’t recommend her.
In this case, it sounds like you’d be inviting something into your life that you don’t particularly want in it. when you put her visa situation in the mix, it gets more complicated.Considering the situation as a whole, I think this is one where you can pass on referring her and feel okay about it.I've dated countless women and it has always amazed me how little they know about men.I know I don’t have any obligation to make the connection, but it would really help out a few people and some of my reasons not to do it feel kind of selfish. I think the key part of your letter is this: “I don’t actually know whether Jane is good at her job …She’s been fired or let go a few times, and some of the stories she has told me about her work made me wonder about her performance.” When you recommend someone for a job, you’re vouching for them, and you’re putting your own professional reputation on the line.I dated Jane for two years, and we broke up last year.
There was a lot of emotional pain in the relationship, but the breakup itself was pretty amicable.
She’s smart and generally capable, but she’s been fired or let go a few times, and some of the stories she has told me about her work made me wonder about her performance.
I don’t want to refer a bad candidate to work with a bunch of people I know.
And depending on just how badly things go, it could still impact your reputation (and their interest in taking recommendations from you in the future).
In theory that shouldn’t happen because you’ll have been clear with them about the limits of your knowledge about her, but in reality people are going to associate you with the situation anyway.
It might reflect badly on me, and I want my former co-workers (especially the managers doing the hiring) to be ongoing professional contacts who respect my judgment.