First year dating anniversary ideas for him
I will forever associate the colorful leaves, cool breeze and crisp air of Autumn with the helplessness I felt 7 years ago knowing my mother could slip from life at any moment. Ladies and gentleman I submit to you an entry from my now defunct photoblog posted on October 26th, 2012… Choose a ritual that can be repeated in the years to come. This year, as with past years, I spent time thinking about how I would cope with the day, I even started a blog post about it. The day came and went and I totally forgot about it. So, apparently this is how I dysfunctionally deal with my mom’s deathiversary. For me, forgetting feels a lot worse than remembering the pain; which is why I’m writing this post today – to implore you to be like me. Distract yourself by getting together with friends, going to the movies, or taking a short trip.
Now, he’s looking forward to our 50th for another trophy. I cross stitched a wedding sampler for our 25th anniversary for my husband. The Happy Wives Club community has grown to include more than 1 million women in over 110 countries around the world.She’s an investor in real estate, tech sector and lifestyle brands.When she’s not writing or working, she's happily doting over her husband of twelve years, Keith (and sometimes manages to do all three simultaneously).My husband made me a Red Vine bouquet and I filled his with Love Notes candy! I went on Shutterfly and put a picture of us at our wedding on a shirt w/ the caption “Married My Best Friend” and our wedding date. In a small box, I placed inside a test pack w/ a positive pregnancy result… A six-pack of diet Coke and a gallon of chocolate ice cream — it was meaningful to the two of us, something no one else would think of giving me….expensive gifts just bought as a gift can’t hold a candle to something simple and inexpensive with loads of personal meaning. I made a poster of the different popular love teams (i.e tarzan & jane, mickey and minnie mouse) and in the middle I put our names in bolder, bigger letters and put it in a romantic frame I personally made. I got $20 dollars worth in $2 dollar bills and printed labels with things we could do and rolled them up. Our anniversary is on Groundhog Day.I went to Build-A-Bear and made my husband a groundhog and included inside the stuffed animal a personal message I recorded while making “Phil”. stamped 3 hearts on the frame (for our third anniversary) displayed it in the bathroom where we see it everyday 10 years later. -Fawn (yep, I just came up with this one so I’d better try it out myself ). JOIN THE 1,000,000 MEMBER CHALLENGE: If you haven’t already done it, what are you waiting for? It takes only a few seconds and, of course, is free.(go to the dollar show, get ice cream, go for a walk to the store to get a candy…) It was fun and we got to spend time together. A puzzle with a picture of your wedding and you can spend time every year putting it together they make them at Walmart or Meijer. My sweet hubby made me a DVD of family pictures from when we dated through our 10th anniversary using some of my favorite music as background. I arranged for the children to be gone & prepared a dinner & greeted him in a piece of lingerie & dinner & dessert was me. A mix cd of songs from our dating and married life that reminded me of him or a special memory we share. It is like memory lane of our marriage and it always shows us how far we have come, let’s enjoy where we have been and look forward to where we are going! For our 25th Anniversary I gave my husband a silver trophy that read To My Greatest Friend and Lover. Ordered a print with all the family’s important dates on it-wedding day, births of our children, etc. I made him a video that told him all the things I love about him and put pictures of us throughout our relationship. QUESTION: Do you have any great anniversary gift ideas for less than $25? THE BOOK: Read the book that inspired the powerful TED talk and prompted author of “We’ve been counseling couples and writing marriage books for a long time, and we can say with absolute certainty, there has never been a book quite like The Argument-Free Marriage. For our first anniversary (which is traditionally the paper anniversary), I took sand from Lake Michigan (where my husband was born) and put it in an old bottle with a stopper top.
He loved it and it still sits on his dresser by the bed! My husband took the batteries out of a wall clock, set it to the time we got married, and wrote a poem around the outside of it. I bought a jar and filled it with his favorite candy and wrapped each candy with a piece of paper that had a reason why I love him. On our first year anniversary, my husband gave me a photo album he had worked on the entire year to commemorate our first year together. One year we decided to get creative and set a $5 limit and whatever we did it had to fit in a noodle box. Husband made me a dozen roses out of my favorite candy (stuffed Twizzlers). Wrote out the words of all the little ways he shows me love everyday and framed it… Treat your spouse to a 30-minute massage, followed by an enzyme facial (don’t attempt to do extractions…enzyme facial mask will do the trick and can be purchased anywhere for less than $20), manicure and pedicure.
I wanted to do something unusual, fun, and flirtatious while also being creative with things we already had around the house.
So, I found my kids’ play doctor kit and thought it would be fun to leave your spouse a teaser for what to look forward to at the end of the anniversary.
On the morning of October 24th I stepped out of my house and as soon as the smell of fall hit me I thought, holy crap, is it the day? Litsa and I have written many blog posts about dealing with grief on special days.
When I looked at the date and realized it was actually the day after, I was shocked. We helped you reframe Valentines Day, we offered you 8 New Year’s resolutions for grievers, we suggested a fun family activity for remembering loved ones on Easter, we came up with a list of ways to remember your loved one during the holiday season, we challenged you to search for joy on Mother’s Day, and Litsa laid out a rock star tutorial on Father’s Day sulking. Visit or spend time in a place where you feel close to your loved one. Take the trip you had been planning or dreaming about. Read old notes, letters, or e-mails from your loved one.
Clearly we advocate for finding constructive ways to acknowledge and cope with tough days; although I will totally support you in ignoring them if you so choose. Some will want to fully feel the sadness and emotion of the day (what I like to call ‘wallowing with a purpose’), some will want to stay positive, some will want to do a quick and casual acknowledgement, and some will want to spend the entire day focused on the deceased.