E dating cautions
Reflecting back to when I was single and looking after my divorce, I’m shocked at how easily a woman WHO I DID NOT KNOW would invite me to her home (having never met me before) after a few chats via phone/email/text.It was kinda easy to WOO and WOW women on the phone and they not only thought me safe, they felt an almost unique connection with me.
By the way, this works for offline connections too.So my lesson today is to recognize that sometimes intuition can be confused by the chemical attraction or connection we feel for another person “as if we’ve known them all our life.” Common sense can be thrown out the window by believing it’s our inner voice talking.Safety is still safety and being safe ALL the time is a better bet than trusting your gut with someone you have never met, don’t ya think?Here are a few safety tips you should know before you go looking for love online, with some reassurances from seasoned "virtual" daters. Wait until you actually meet the person and build up a level of trust before you share your address, phone number or real email address.(You typically use an encrypted email on these sites.) Stay local.Never – and I mean never – meet a man at his home or even think of inviting him to your home until you really get to know him. Yes, tell a friend or family member the details about where you are meeting, give them his contact details like name and phone number and any other additional information you have about him.
Check in with your friend during the date or ask your friend to call you during the date to let them know how you are doing.
I could see that he had a Facebook friend with whom I'd gone to college.
When I asked about that, he told me that the guy was a good friend of his.
Besides, this can be used as an escape clause if you feel like the date isn’t going well: “Hey Jim, my friend needs me because of an emergency and we have to end the date.” Third, drive yourself to the date and drive home by yourself.
Having your own wheels gives you control should the date go bad.
Maybe you'll meet someone nice in a museum, or at a party, or at work ...