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Dating vs booty call

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As a single female in a big city, I naturally continued my Tinder/Hinge/Bumble exploration in search of my next PIC, and ended up meeting with a young entrepreneur at our local neighborhood tavern. I had taken part in a relatively successful date night, AND made my LTBC (long term booty call - we're going to make it happen) fully aware that I was, in fact, attractive to other men, and that I wasn't simply his sex slave. While I admittedly don't have a ton of long term relationship experience at the ripe old age of 23, I do know what I have experienced in a committed relationship that I will ALWAYS be looking for in a potential mate (and that BB did not provide...): - Intellectual compatibility: Have you ever met that person that you can talk with for hours upon hours on end, and feel like no time has gone by? After our initial meeting, we struggled to find mutual ground on topics that interested us.

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BB and I met where all meaningful, lasting relationships are formed - Tinder.I also felt "wanted" for the first time in a long time, and ultimately became addicted to the confidence that it gave me.A quick (but relevant) aside - while BB and I remained committed to each other, we never agreed to be exclusive.While I, at first, put on an act to my friends to appear more confident than I actually was, I ultimately grew to learn more about (and love) myself in periods when I was alone, rather than dating around.In the times where I would have been on a date, I've instead taken stock of what it is that genuinely makes me happy.After seeing each other for about a year, certain events and interactions had led BB and I to have "THE TALK" (and no, not THAT talk; this isn't a love story! BB became horrifically concerned that I wanted more out of him that just that booty, and felt the need to send me an avalanche of text messages outlining why he could not commit to me as my boyfriend, and why we were better off as nothing more that physical partners.

"I just got out of a long term relationship," "I'm really focused on building my career," "I'm not able to give you the attention that you deserve," "I'm so young, I JUST WANT TO HAVE FUN." Mind you, prior to this response I had just asked if he wanted to grab a burger and a beer; you'd have thought I'd proposed marriage. It was in that moment that I realized that I no long wanted to be a booty call; I wanted to be a friend with benefits.

There are certain things that make you feel bitter over time...

I'm not going to get graphic, but when your partner refuses to reciprocate certain acts in the bedroom, it's downright frustrating, and over time started to make me feel undesirable and unattractive.

If you happen to find yourself in a LTBC, please, for the love of all that is holy, DON'T take it too seriously.

There will be moments that you'll embarrass yourself and moments that you regret, but you just need to learn to roll with the punches and find humor in every situation. - It's okay to be alone: As someone that's only had one serious, long-term relationship in their life, I've become more than accustomed to being single.

I've learned to enjoy cooking meals (albeit poorly - I'm working on it! I've taken up Spanish, gone to museums and spent time with my family.