You could find yourself in an entanglement with a man who's not really sure how or why he got there.
The best way to deal with an introvert is to match his interest. The inexperienced man is very often a diamond in the rough and will make a wonderful partner in the long run.Relationships that start out with this dynamic never really recover, and as months and years pass, you may find yourself in a sexless "just friends"/ roommate arrangement.If you are crushing on a shy guy, I definitely recommend that you read The Rules, by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider.See if any of these situations sound familiar: If you identify with any of these situations, I will let you in on a secret: the “problem” in each of these scenarios is not that the man is shy or inexperienced.The underlying issue is that he is just not interested enough in starting up a relationship with that particular woman.What he responds to best is a woman with a light, feminine touch; like a beautiful butterfly, she shimmers just out of reach.
By not “helping” him date you, you are letting him know that you see him as the competent adult man that he is. If he approaches you and you start dating, trust that he can figure out what to do.
The good news is that you don't need to be an introvert to date one.
But to keep your romantic energy in balance, you will want to follow some basic rules.
That doesn’t mean he is satisfied or happy with that dynamic, or that he isn't capable of pursuing you if he’s motivated to do so.
The inexperienced man is like a turtle: when women chase after him he retreats deeper into his shell.
He may have been married previously or in a series of long-term relationships — he likes and values female companionship — but he hasn’t dated much in a formal sense, and seems confused or tentative when dealing with women in a romantic setting.