Dating scans in pregnancy
You're going to have to go and - we're going to have to do an internal scan'. And she turned on me as well and said that, 'Did I . And I said, 'You can, you can tell me if my baby is in the right place or it's, you know, you know . I said, 'I know you can't tell me if my baby has got anencephaly. I said, 'I understand about the whole situation with anencephaly, and that, you know, I'm not stupid, I do understand about anencephaly and when you can scan for it and all of this'.
And they said that it was hospital policy not to have more than one person in the room, and mum then turned round and said, 'Well, I'm sorry' she said, 'my daughter feels you're treating her like an idiot'.And she started getting quite aggressive towards me and kind of in her, the way she was talking to me, and I kind of got a bit upset about this and said, 'Look, you know, I want you to do an internal scan, and if you can't see the baby properly I'm happy for you to do that. And my mum wasn't actually in the room at the time because you, they only, the hospital only allow you to have one person in the room with you at the time.And mum obviously saw us coming out crying and assumed the worst.And, and then she sat us up and said, “I’m really, really sorry.Your baby died at 8.4, and I know that you’re 10 weeks”.And I said, well, you know, I just thought, “Oh, I can’t cope with this, kind of like, you know.
You, you can’t all of a sudden be all nice to me and all lovely as pie and, you know, tell me something like that, after having a massive lay in to me about not being able to tell me if my baby’s all right and, and all of this, and”.
The senior member of staff walked in, didn't ask us any questions, how far along we were, any kind of past history, or anything like this, didn't even look at the notes, put the scanner on and kind of after scanning around for a bit, took the scanner off and started saying, 'Well, why have you come this early?
' And it was like, 'Well, what do you mean, why have we come this early?
Your 12-week ultrasound scan is the 1st of the 2 routine pregnancy scans you're offered on the NHS.
It's officially known as the 'dating scan' because it's used to pinpoint your baby's due date. That's because it's likely to be the 1st time you 'see' your baby (whee!
For women who have been given distressing news about their baby during the scan, there should be a health professional available to provide immediate support.