Dating an ugly girl
As Emmalee Bierly, a marriage family therapist and co-founder of The Westchester Therapy Group told Elite Daily: There is so much pressure from society when it comes to beauty standards.We’re constantly reminded and told what makes someone “beautiful” and how to make ourselves more beautiful, however, men rarely meet the same kind of scrutiny.
As Caracciolo affirms: Studies in the realm of attractiveness and coupling do tend to show that women in heterosexual relationships in which they are the more ‘attractive’ partner tend to have more supportive partners overall.We’re already the minority, and unfortunately, another aspect of social interaction that research finds is that more traditionally ‘attractive’ women are generally treated better and do better in a work environment.Sadly, when it comes to being a woman in this harsh, cruel world, looks really do carry weight.Our looks are put under a microscope on a daily, if not hourly, basis.If we’re told the only way we’re going to be appealing to the opposite sex is to “put our best face forward,” we’re obviously going to see personal maintenance as a high priority.We need someone who deeply cares about us and can communicate with us. The media and magazines constantly tell women we need to put serious effort into our appearances if we want to attract a potential mate.
We’re told how to be thinner, how to make our skin look more flawless and which lipsticks will make our lips more kissable.
I was sitting in a Spanish restaurant in Alphabet City with my little sister.
She was in town for the weekend from Boston, and I was treating her to shrimp stew, churros and the tales of my not-so-glamorous life in NYC.
I’ve seen the same thing time and time again with my beautiful, intelligent girlfriends. Do women just value looks less highly than our male counterparts? So, Elite Daily went to the best experts in the field to try to get to the bottom of this conundrum. Logan Levkoff, the stereotypical bimbo, model arm candy next to the balding millionaire is just not as simple a situation as it seems: Generally, women don’t put such high stakes on a man based on his looks. We’re looking for compassion and emotional fluency when seeking out a potential partner.
Don’t even pretend you haven’t witnessed the same thing. Levkoff continues: There is no arguing that there are benefits that financial affluence can provide, but that is not the predominant reason for selecting a mate.
Being beautiful is clearly not all that matters, but there is little use trying to deny that it doesn’t give you a leg up in society.