Chirstian dating rules for teens
We can’t take a week off from work without asking our boss.
First, outline what you believe the behavior in your home should be — your “beliefs.” Then, determine what rules are needed to support those beliefs.If what they wear breaks the school’s dress code, they are stepping over the school’s boundaries.Likewise, when a teen is allowed to drive the car, perhaps they are told they must be home by dark, not have any other teens in the car, and they must not drive any further than a certain distance away from home.In situations with children and youth this distinction is very important.If an adult employee or volunteer of a church does not use a side hug they may be accused, rightly or wrongly, of inappropriate advances.For instance, I’ve always thought that a teen wearing one fashion or another should be their own choice.
They can dress how they want, but as soon as that clothing becomes immodest, they are stepping over a boundary, the modesty boundary.
It’s like the difference between keeping a horse on a lead rope and letting him run freely in a fenced pasture.
Within the safety of the fences, the horse has the freedom to roam and even push up against the fences. Thank goodness teens are learning how to reason, so establishing boundaries and consequences will help them make better choices, versus the need for parental hovering, hand-holding, or physical barriers.
Responsibility and a feeling of self-control begin with a child knowing and understanding the breadth of their choices within those boundaries.
The kids I’ve met with the lowest self-esteem and the least self-control are those who either have never experienced boundaries or whose parents use punishment as the only means of communicating boundaries.
We all have boundaries in our lives, so teens need to get accustomed to them.