Chinese american men and dating
Although I’ve been in Japan for 6 years now, I totally lack that kind of experience.Instead I asked friends and fellow bloggers, who have had Japanese boyfriends or are even married to a Japanese man, to share their personal experience with us.
A lot of Japanese men seem to have an inferiority complex (many of my Japanese male friends have told me this), so they might not imagine that any non-Japanese woman would ever be interested in them. ” “He was just a gaijin-hunter, so that didn’t go to well.At first, we went through periods where we would only speak English (which I didn’t like) or when we would only speak Japanese (which he didn’t like). ” “I think in general, it’s important to be very open about what you are expecting from the relationship.Obviously we change it according to the circumstances (we are not going to speak in English to each other when out with a lot of Japanese friends! If you need a lot of hugs and affection, make sure that he knows and don’t just get annoyed that he’s not automatically doing it.It was an interesting journey and I want to thank all of the participants for taking the time to tell us about their own unique story.“I moved to Japan when I was 18 and have been dating Asian guys ever since. I often hear girls who long for Asian boyfriends say that Western guys are dogs, and I can confidently say that Asian men are no different.As long as you’re both honest and open about things, and actually communicate properly with each other, it should be okay!
” “Even if you are shy, if you like someone you should be proactive about it.
He doesn’t expect me to cook Japanese food and he doesn’t measure me by my miso soup making skills (I’ve gotten told by MANY people that my husband will basically judge me on my miso soup).
We do have a lot of trouble communicating when we fight and again I’m not sure if it’s a language issue, culture, or just us …” “I actually have a big problem with people prefacing their relationships with their significant other’s ethnicity. And I hate it when people act like I won a prize or ‘got’ something special because he’s Japanese. him.” “Every guy I’ve ever been in a relationship with has been different from the last, but I suppose dating a Japanese guy has the added spice of major cultural differences, as opposed to just differences in hobbies or upbringing.
” “If you can both speak the other person’s language, there are probably going to be disagreements about what language to speak.
My husband and I have a system where we swap languages every day – so today is an English day, and tomorrow is Japanese.
My first Japanese boyfriend would go for weeks without contacting me because he was working late every day.