Asian men and dating
“No rice, no spice” is social networking apps Scruff and Grindr parlance for “no East Asian men, no South Asian men.” Straight people aren’t nearly as upfront about their prejudices on Tinder, but having spoken to several women of colour about their time dating online, they seem to get fewer messages and matches than other women and are frequently racially fetishized when they do connect.
And now with the proliferation of online dating apps and websites, it can be even more daunting.“While pretty much all women of colour are considered more sexual and exotic than white women, the ways in which this plays out varies.Asian women have historically been deemed more sexual but also are viewed as being more demure and feminine.Once again, age-old stereotypes of Asian women as being submissive, docile, and sexually exotic play a role.But it's also true that Asian women have long been cast alongside white men in movies, television, and even the nightly news.In essence, they find this world of online dating extremely limiting because of the limits placed on them by America's standard of beauty.
Women who have no Asian male friends or interactions are limited to societal and media portrayal of Asian men which isn't flattering.
While there are different theories for the reasoning, the clients I work with all agree with the premise of not being able to fit the hyper-masculine culture perpetuated by Western society.
Sure some may work out, hit the weights and look strong but they lament that women do judge a book by its cover.
Just ask yourself, when was the last time you saw an Asian-American male anchor with a white female co-anchor?
Blogger, fashion photographer, and social critic Eliza Romero goes even further by calling out Asian women on this popular subtopic of the White Male/Asian Female (WM/AF) dynamic in her recent blog, To further complicate the problem, as online dating becomes more the norm than the exception, the image of the Asian man as emasculated, lacking confidence, nerdy, and asexual will be heightened.
Black women and Asian men are the two groups most notably at a dating disadvantage.