So, wouldn’t it make sense for two groups who get a bad rep to come together and be able to relate to each other’s struggles? I understand the difficulty in being thought of as “undesirable.” And that’s why I like that there are groups encouraging this type of interracial, intercultural exchange.But…recently I suddenly left an AMBW Facebook group that I was part of for a pretty long time. Instead of having meaningful discussion, that particular group seems to have become a shallow place where people post pics of hot Asian models and celebrities, and where the Black women seem to flock to every post from a guy with an Asian last name, even if all he’s saying is “Yo.” I can’t say that EVERY group is like that, because I wasn’t part of EVERY group; just that one and maybe another that I’ve forgotten about.
Not to mention that the online presence (not the mobile online presence) of Japanese people, aside from mixi and 2chan, is known to be pretty low.So I restored my profile, uploaded a new picture, and edited my information (it still said that I was “hoping to go to Japan,” lol).I added a Japanese translation of my English introduction message in hopes of encouraging more Japanese speakers to contact me.I saw one post, by a Korean guy taking a selfie, pretty much saying “What’s up? But I didn’t sign up for “yellow fever,” nor would I want a guy specifically looking for an “exotic” woman.So, I’m all for fostering relationships that would otherwise be unlikely to happen, but don’t make “getting a Japanese boyfriend” or “scoring a black girlfriend” a goal.All the discussions and topics about AMBW that I’ve been reading about lately drew me back to using the site.
One of the reasons I quit before was because I wasn’t meeting many Japanese guys (or Japanese people in general), but rather people from other countries.
The screenshot from my last blog post was from a dating/friendship community known as Japan Zone Friends.
I revived my profile on Japan Zone Friends after what seems like years.
Finally, I may just be doing one single thing wrong: listing my country as “Japan.” Even though that’s where I live, it may be possible that the Japanese guys I’m looking for are looking for women who DON’T live in Japan, and the middle-aged men from other countries might think that I’m Japanese.
I don’t think the former is likely, but the latter might be.
I can’t say there’s anything wrong with these men, but I’m 22, and I would much prefer to have a guy in the same age range, and not closer to my dad’s age (won’t lie though, if Fukuyama Masaharu proposed to me I’d say yes : P) Of the 55 visits to my profile that I’ve gotten so far (some of these are repeats), about 10% of them were from Japanese men in their 20s.